As with anything in life, we need to know when to listen and when to make up our own mind. Not all advice is good. Here are some advice tips you may choose to ignore.
Never change for anybody.
The problem with that advice is that change is a natural part of life, and it's inevitable when you meet someone you're going to be with long term. I've changed a ton since I met my husband, and he has too. But we've changed for the better. It's a good thing.
Do what you love and you'll never work a day of your life.
I worked a job that I loved and it just became another job. The trick is to do the job you can see yourself doing for 40 years without going insane.
Things will get better if you just persevere.
Sometimes things will actually get worse until you decide to leave whatever situation is causing you problems.
Family is family no matter what.
I made myself miserable for my entire adult life pretending I didn't have serious issues with my selfish, poisonous mother because of choices she made when I was a kid. It took me till I was 32-years-old to tell her I didn't want to deal with her for a long period so I could have time to figure out how to forgive her and she reacted with the sharpest, most toxic reaction I could have anticipated. Sometimes real family is made up of the people you choose.
Live each day as if it's your last.
I would be broke if I did that.
Never go to bed angry.
DO go to bed angry. Give yourself time to process those raw emotions and think rationally before it is discussed more.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and out of sight, out of mind.
One of these is wrong!
Just be yourself. It'll happen when you least expect it.
While this may work for some, it doesn't always happen. At all.
Never give up.
Sometimes giving up and moving on is the right thing to do.
Follow your dreams.
First of all, not everyone has dreams. Secondly, you can't earn enough butterfly farming to support yourself. Get a job that pays you well enough to have hobbies. Find your happiness OUTSIDE of work. Travel, cook, garden.
Good is the enemy of great.
I have to flip this to "perfect is the enemy of getting anything done." Be good. Good is good.
Work hard and you'll be successful.
I know tons of people who work hard and made wise choices but still struggle to pay their bills.
Just go! Travel! Drop everything and it’ll work itself out! You’ll see...
Unless you come from money, there is no dropping everything and doing what you want.
Just ignore bullies, they'll move on.
Should be replaced with "Make sure they know you will make them them regret it if they bother you, and then they'll move on."
You can do whatever you want to do if you put your mind to it.
Sorry, but it takes an especially smart/talented/dedicated person to be able to do whatever they want, not to mention that many things require money or a good amount of luck. Most of us are going to be average...that is why it's called average, after all.
What goes around comes around.
I think sometimes bad things happen to good people or good things happen to bad people it's all honestly luck. We just like to believe in karma cause it makes us feel better but in reality it doesn't exist.
Money can't buy happiness.
I would rather be crying in a Porsche than laughing in my beat up old Mazda.
If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best.
This sounds good in principle but when your worst is stabbing me with a fork and your best is burning spaghetti and ordering takeout, it starts to become less reasonable.
Don't be in it for the money.
Disagree. Money is as important as it can get. Period.
Winners never quit.
Winners quit all the time. When it becomes clear the likely payoff isn't worth the investment in time and resources it IS time to quit. There are probably things in your life at any given time that you'd be better off quitting and putting those resources into things with a better chance of a successful outcome.
You should spend 3 months salary on an engagement ring.
Perhaps instead you should save for a down payment on a house, towards retirement, etc.
Be a man, don't show emotion.
Showing emotion is incredibly important for a human's mental health.
You're only hurting yourself by holding onto that anger.
People are allowed to feel how they feel. And more than that, some people absolutely do not deserve forgiveness.
Sticks and stones can break your bones but words can never hurt you.
Communication is the most powerful tool mankind has, of course we use it to hurt each other.
Failure is natural and you'll bounce back just fine.
Failure IS an important part of life. But I've found over the years that there are some moments where you really, really shouldn't fail.
Bite your tongue when there is conflict.
No one likes a pushover, stand up for yourself and you’ll earn more respect.
Families should always look out for each other.
If only it was always like this. But we cannot choose our family so this advice doesn't always work.
Always see the good in people.
There are many good people in this world for sure, but there are many many who are not so good.
Do it right or don't do it at all.
Sometimes you don't have the time or money to do something in the perfect way, maybe just do something to improve whatever it is as much as you can.
Forget the haters. If you have haters, you’re doing something right.
I agree, don’t listen to people who only want to tear you down, but sometimes listening to critics is useful. You are not infallible, and criticism is how you get better. I think this piece of advice is harmful and leads to a lot of entitlement.
Slow and Steady wins the race.
Only in cartoons. You gotta be steady, but being slow hurts. Someone else gets what you deserve if you are too slow.
Go to college, even if you don't know what you want to do.
Terrible idea. College is super expensive, and unless you were born rich you will be going into debt to go there. There are plenty of jobs where you can make decent to good money with no degree, and you can even go into the trades and make quite good money.
No one owes you anything.
Depends on the situation. Sometimes people owe you a lot, and you will never get what you are owed unless you're absolutely relentless with them. I feel like this saying was popularized by a conman.
Life is what happens when you're too busy doing something else.
I hate that one. I've found (just turned 29) that my twenties are pretty much up and I should've really thought about what I wanted my "fun" decade should contain. Instead, I just did things that kept me busy (school, work, starting a masters).
Get busy doing things you want as well as the things that give you a stable future. Have a balance, don't be too busy to LIVE A HAPPY LIFE!
If you have nothing good to say, say nothing at all.
I don't think we'll ever solve our interpersonal issues if we're unwilling to point out each other's flaws.
You "have to" have kids.
No. You don't.
Follow your heart.
Garbage. Your brain is much more often right and saner.
Happy wife, happy life.
I think a woman wrote that.
Treat others how you want to be treated.
No. Treat others how THEY want to be treated, everyone behaves differently given the same situation.
It doesn’t. Some things can cause the same amount of pain as they did all those years ago. What happens is simply that you recognise life does go on, but you learn to carry the pain with you.
It will happen if fate wants it.
No, it wont. It's you who decides what your fate will bring upon you.
You need to find yourself!
You build yourself. You make yourself. You don't "find" yourself.
Fake it till you make it.
I get the sentiment, just don’t like it.
Be the best at what you do.
That's fine to say, but always remember kids, no matter how good you are at something, there are hundreds of people around the world who are better at it than you.
Honesty is the best policy.
Most people don't want to be told the truth.
It could always be worse!
I know, but that doesn't take away from the suckiness of the situation.
Surround yourself with positive people.
You'll do far better by surrounding yourself with realistic, sensible people.
Save, save, save your money.
Why save it for your golden years when you can have great experiences with your kids now? All you do after kids leave the house is talk about all the great times you had with them.
Don't knock it until you try it.
Well being a fully functioning adult, I can use my powers of observation to deduce plenty of things are not worth the risk or going to improve future me.
Good things come to those who wait.
You know what comes around if you just wait for it? Nothing.
Be happy with who you are.
No. Always improve and try to be better. Everyone has faults they can improve on.